Maintaining a Fresh Perspective

It was a long summer of stress in our house.  A new job, packing up life to move to a new house, and a rather inconvenient injury that put one member of our household out of commission for a little while.  These were some of the events that took over my positive outlook.  While living it, it seemed like so many negative things happened in our little family, but the truth was they were not significant.  They were a collection of bad luck events that passed in time.  And yet, they made me into a “Debbie Downer.”  So for those of you who know me, I apologize for being “that person” who talked about HER problems every time she saw you.  I knew it was happening, but I just couldn’t stop it…

It has been more than a month since our luck turned and I got a new perspective.  I hate the person full of stress and worry that I was for several months.  You see, that person is not me.  Because I was stuck inside my own drama, I could not be available to others.  I don’t want to beat myself up too much, but the truth is that I was a bad Mom, a bad wife, a bad daughter, and a bad friend.  I am fortunate that my village is kind and understanding.  They offered words of wisdom to talk me through the craziest of situations.  I mean, it’s not every day you become the overseer of this-yes, it is a pool being filled in.


Why did I talk to other incessantly about my drama?  I am a venter…telling the story helps me move on.  But boy is it annoying to the folks on the other end.  I knew it too.  Sorry…

So it is September-the month of many new beginnings.  The kids are off at school.  Several friends are awaiting the arrival of their first babies!  I am getting ready to teach some new classes  (check out for details).  And after a long hiatus, I am writing again!  I am adopting a new perspective that I hope will enhance every aspect of my life.  I have decided that I want to stay positive and not get stuck in the challenges.

As a parent, I will not get annoyed that my daughter spilled her milk for the second time today.  I will enjoy carting my children around to their various activities.  I will not worry about the extra special treats my children consume as we all settle into our Fresh Perspective.  I will try not to roll my eyes as the complaints are launched at dinner time.  I will maintain a Fresh Perspective!

I saw a question the other day that has kept me thinking.  “What part of your day brought you peace and joy?”  I will let you know the  answers in a future post.  Join me as I become positive again!

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Joyeux Parenting

I am the proud mother of two beautiful children and have lived in Boston for most of my life. I have over twenty years of experience as a Child Development Specialist working with new families, pediatricians at Mass General Hospital, and Early Intervention. I have a wealth of knowledge and expertise regarding the challenges related to breastfeeding, behavior management, picky eaters, discipline, sleep, and development. I love being a wife and mother and sharing my experiences-the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am constantly learning about new evidence based information as it relates to parenting. Most importantly, I think it is crucial to recognize that we all make mistakes and learn from them. I am a firm believer that humor is essential as you navigate the world. Parenting should be full of joy and that is why I started my business Joyeux Parenting. Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you.

One thought on “Maintaining a Fresh Perspective”

  1. Love this! We can relate with the two major home disruptions here, once with having to take a 2 year old and 7 month old to live with others during construction and once while living through it during a crazy winter. I have found that laughing about it and also thinking how lucky we are to be able to create the disruption helped immensely. And guess who spilled cereal 3x and his grape juice twice this morning?


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