Breaking The Rules

When is it ok to break the rules?  Consistency is key, but sometimes you need to fly by the seat of your pants.
As my family recovered from the latest round of illnesses that plagued our home, some of my typical family rules were thrown by the wayside.  I just needed to make some temporary changes to get us through a tough patch.  Yet, I still felt the pang of guilt (I know, I know, it’s a useless emotion) because I was not following through.
Life isn’t perfect and there are curveballs thrown in the mix just to keep things interesting.  So in order to go with it you have to adapt.  For example, when the stomach bug hit every member of my family (except for me-Thank goodness, because who would have done 12 loads of laundry otherwise) we had to change.  The television was on non-stop.  I was so exhausted from waking up every 2 hours to help the “patients” that I didn’t have any energy to stop it.
There are times to be consistent and times that you just need to adapt to the curve balls.  Popsicles at 11 am seem reasonable when it is 90 degrees, your children just completed tball and soccer, and summer is fast approaching.
There are times to accept help from family, friends, and neighbors.  I consider myself very lucky to be surrounded by a great village.  I lend a hand when others are in need and they do the same for me.
There are moments when you drop the ball.  (Last week I missed a tball game despite my good intentions.  Too many calendars to juggle and not enough time.)  I did not beat myself up-and given my perfectionist nature, that is no small task.
As a general rule, I like rules!  I think they help my family stay organized and function more efficiently.  But there are definitely times when you have to break the rules.

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Joyeux Parenting

I am the proud mother of two beautiful children and have lived in Boston for most of my life. I have over twenty years of experience as a Child Development Specialist working with new families, pediatricians at Mass General Hospital, and Early Intervention. I have a wealth of knowledge and expertise regarding the challenges related to breastfeeding, behavior management, picky eaters, discipline, sleep, and development. I love being a wife and mother and sharing my experiences-the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am constantly learning about new evidence based information as it relates to parenting. Most importantly, I think it is crucial to recognize that we all make mistakes and learn from them. I am a firm believer that humor is essential as you navigate the world. Parenting should be full of joy and that is why I started my business Joyeux Parenting. Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you.

One thought on “Breaking The Rules”

  1. On “missing a ball game”. My wonderful, kind, funny, particpatory, smart father was the youngest of five boys. His wonderful parents never attended his college games (he was captain of everything) and only rarely came to his award wining high school games. His self esteem, care for his parents and his outlook were not the slightest hindered. Perhaps we should revisit this issue. It seems like over attachment to each game is now the norm for many…..not sure what we are doing with that.


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