Characteristics and Our Children

Today I went to a conference about Perinatal Health.  I sat and listened to a variety of speakers who work with parents in various capacities.  They had amazing Bio’s and insights to share.  During one session, the topic covered was the transition to Motherhood.

One of the questions that was posted to consider with families was:

“List qualities or attributes you want to develop in your child.  Why are these important to you?  What will you do to foster them?”

Huh, I started to thinking about the answers to these questions as they relate to my own family, I thought of a few others.  As I identify the qualities I want my children to have, do I possess these qualities myself?  And if I don’t, does that make it harder to foster them with my son and daughter?

Here was the list that popped into my head without too much thought:

Kindness.  The definition of kind is “of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person.”  This is crucial for Emotional Intelligence.  It allows people to think beyond themselves.  To be a part of a family and community lays the foundation for kindness.  Sharing a toy with a sibling demonstrates kindness on a basic level.

Resilience.  The definition of resilient is “recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant.”  When you fall down, take a moment to compose yourself, and get back up again.  Don’t we demonstrate resiliency on a daily basis?  Recognizing that everyone faces adversity in many different ways is important.  Learning to overcome it is imperative.

Smart.  The definition is “having or showing quick intelligence or ready mental capability.”  This definition is different for everyone.  There are book smarts, street smarts, and emotional intelligence, for example.  When I think about my children being smart, I want them to be lifelong learners.

As I sit and write, I look at myself, which I think is a crucial part of parenting.  I believe I do possess these attributes.  I think these characteristics will help them navigate their world in a meaningful way.

Have you ever thought about the question “List qualities or attributes you want to develop in your child.  Why are these important to you?  What will you do to foster them?”  If you answer them does it give your parenting experience more meaning?

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Joyeux Parenting

I am the proud mother of two beautiful children and have lived in Boston for most of my life. I have over twenty years of experience as a Child Development Specialist working with new families, pediatricians at Mass General Hospital, and Early Intervention. I have a wealth of knowledge and expertise regarding the challenges related to breastfeeding, behavior management, picky eaters, discipline, sleep, and development. I love being a wife and mother and sharing my experiences-the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am constantly learning about new evidence based information as it relates to parenting. Most importantly, I think it is crucial to recognize that we all make mistakes and learn from them. I am a firm believer that humor is essential as you navigate the world. Parenting should be full of joy and that is why I started my business Joyeux Parenting. Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you.

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