Today I went to a conference about Perinatal Health. I sat and listened to a variety of speakers who work with parents in various capacities. They had amazing Bio’s and insights to share. During one session, the topic covered was the transition to Motherhood.
One of the questions that was posted to consider with families was:
“List qualities or attributes you want to develop in your child. Why are these important to you? What will you do to foster them?”
Huh, I started to thinking about the answers to these questions as they relate to my own family, I thought of a few others. As I identify the qualities I want my children to have, do I possess these qualities myself? And if I don’t, does that make it harder to foster them with my son and daughter?
Here was the list that popped into my head without too much thought:
Kindness. The definition of kind is “.” This is crucial for Emotional Intelligence. It allows people to think beyond themselves. To be a part of a family and community lays the foundation for kindness. Sharing a toy with a sibling demonstrates kindness on a basic level.
Resilience. The definition of resilient is “” When you fall down, take a moment to compose yourself, and get back up again. Don’t we demonstrate resiliency on a daily basis? Recognizing that everyone faces adversity in many different ways is important. Learning to overcome it is imperative.
Smart. The definition is “.” This definition is different for everyone. There are book smarts, street smarts, and emotional intelligence, for example. When I think about my children being smart, I want them to be lifelong learners.
As I sit and write, I look at myself, which I think is a crucial part of parenting. I believe I do possess these attributes. I think these characteristics will help them navigate their world in a meaningful way.
Have you ever thought about the question “List qualities or attributes you want to develop in your child. Why are these important to you? What will you do to foster them?” If you answer them does it give your parenting experience more meaning?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!