You know the title of THIS article caught my attention!
8 Reasons Why Spending Time Alone Is Actually Really Good For You.
Who can’t relate to the concepts highlighted by the author, Leigh Weignus. It made me think back to the early days when I met my husband. He was, and still is, really good at alone time. I think it has to do with the fact that he is an only child and learned to master alone time at an early age. Me, not so much.
I am a social creature. I love talking. I love meeting old friends and new ones in a variety of settings to connect and catch up. And while I learned to enjoy alone time, it wasn’t my favorite thing to do. When I got my own apartment at the age of 26 that all started to change. With a little practice, I learned to love it. Going for long walks in Harvard Square to people watch was an excellent way to spend my time. I learned to use my time for my artwork, cooking, jewelry making-all because I spent some time with myself!
So challenge you to do three things:
1) Spend some time alone for yourself. As a parent this is hard, but it is crucial.
2) Encourage your significant other to spend time on their own. It helps them focus on themselves and recharge their batteries.
3) THIS IS THE IMPORTANT ONE SO PAY ATTENTION! Teach your child to spend time by themselves. I truly believe that children are losing the ability to play independently. We plan many activities and they have screens to occupy their time. We forget to encourage children to have time by themselves.
Children will inevitably tell you they are bored- tell them why it is important to play by themselves. Explain why being self-reliant and self-sufficient is so crucial for everyone to grow. Give them examples of the great things you are able to do when you are alone. (Remember we are all leading by example.) I promise you that with practice they will become very good at alone time.
Read the article, think about the concepts, and let me know what you think.