This week I had a discussion about fatherhood with my colleagues. We were discussing the likelihood that dads will participate in an upcoming event designed to get fathers more involved with their children. The goal is to get these men to take an active role in their child’s life and think about parenting over the long haul, not just the moments. They will be encouraged to think about what their own parenting legacy will be. The agenda sounds wonderful and engaging, but will they come?
I am skeptical that a group of men will want to get together to talk about their feelings. And based on the viewpoint of this author, Nevin Martell, I might be right. Dad’s complain about their kids. They need to vent and get validation that they are not the only ones with unruly children. But many of them do not want to sit around, like mothers do, in various play groups and support groups. You know what, I respect that. It may not be their thing and that is ok.
The most poignant quote in this piece is: “One of the first things I learned about parenting is that both the people who love you the most and those who have never met you will judge you constantly. Being a mother or a father requires thick skin.”
We all parent in different ways. One person may complain more than another, and that’s just the way it is.
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