Do Dad’s Complain?

This week I had a discussion about fatherhood with my colleagues.  We were discussing the likelihood that dads will participate in an upcoming event designed to get fathers more involved with their children.  The goal is to get these men to take an active role in their child’s life and think about parenting over the long haul, not just the moments.  They will be encouraged to think about what their own parenting legacy will be.  The agenda sounds wonderful and engaging, but will they come?

I am skeptical that a group of men will want to get together to talk about their feelings.  And based on the viewpoint of this author, Nevin Martell, I might be right.  Dad’s complain about their kids.  They need to vent and get validation that they are not the only ones with unruly children.  But many of them do not want to sit around, like mothers do, in various play groups and support groups.  You know what, I respect that.  It may not be their thing and that is ok.

The most poignant quote in this piece is: “One of the first things I learned about parenting is that both the people who love you the most and those who have never met you will judge you constantly. Being a mother or a father requires thick skin.”

We all parent in different ways. One person may complain more than another, and that’s just the way it is.

Read this piece for the whole article.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/02/27/why-dads-really-dont-complain-much/

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Joyeux Parenting

I am the proud mother of two beautiful children and have lived in Boston for most of my life. I have over twenty years of experience as a Child Development Specialist working with new families, pediatricians at Mass General Hospital, and Early Intervention. I have a wealth of knowledge and expertise regarding the challenges related to breastfeeding, behavior management, picky eaters, discipline, sleep, and development. I love being a wife and mother and sharing my experiences-the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am constantly learning about new evidence based information as it relates to parenting. Most importantly, I think it is crucial to recognize that we all make mistakes and learn from them. I am a firm believer that humor is essential as you navigate the world. Parenting should be full of joy and that is why I started my business Joyeux Parenting. Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences with you.

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