Embrace the chaos! This is a phrase that has been used a lot in the past few weeks in my house. It’s like a code for the moments when the house is a disaster and I want peace. The truth is, my husband recites this phrase to me and I have been rolling my eyes…
I like order. I love it when the house is clean, the laundry is put away, and the children are playing quietly. This is not how things have been in my world for much of January and February. The unprecedented New England weather combined with multiple illnesses is forcing me to change my outlook. I must Embrace the chaos! It’s a matter of survival, well maybe I am being overly dramatic, but you get the idea.
What does it mean to Embrace The Chaos? In my family it means loving the fact that we will be together for days in the same space. It means we will not complain about having to shovel again without anywhere to put the snow. It means walking around the piles of stuff that my daughter has left in her wake while playing. Embracing The Chaos means eating comfort food instead of going to the gym like I planned. It means rescheduling get together a with friends and family.
As a parent, I know that it is important for me to believe in this new mantra. I want my children to live it too because there are simply things beyond our control. Things don’t go as planned and plan B is often the only option. I don’t want them to be uptight. I want my kids to see the beauty in the experiences instead of thinking of what could have been. But I am a control freak at times and this is a challenge for me. How do I shift my thought process that is so engrained in my mind?
Today I am going to slow myself down. I am not going to race from one thing to the next in order to get things done. I am going to ignore my to-do list even though it seems to multiply in ridiculous fashion. I am going to speak in a calm, clear voice without sounding stressed out. I am going to hug my husband and children a bit more because the endorphins that are released will make us all feel better. I am going to do something creative that I usually don’t make time for. I am going to take care of me so that I am more available for my family.
Today is a great day to Embrace The Chaos!