Children are resilient, more so than their parents. The reason is because they don’t read into the failures and replay them as often as we do. They intrinsically know that making mistakes is part of growing up. But what happens when they face the first really big set back?
This weekend my dear friend’s son dealt with his first big blow. He did not make his high school basketball team-and all of his friends did. He was heartbroken. And at that moment, in the heart and mind of this wonderful 14 year old, things were not going as planned. So I happily relayed the story of when I did not make it onto the cheerleading squad (a total blessing for me in the end. Of course, said 14 year old did not want to imagine his auntie in some old cheerleading outfit.) After many conversations with friends, family, and other influential adults, he shifted gears and had something new to look forward to.
I am a huge believer in the theory that “Things happen for a reason.” There were many times that I wanted to scream when someone pointed this out to me, but in the end it’s true. We are all resilient, we have to be. So please, take the advice of Daniel Wong, point out your own failures so a child can learn too.
Daniel Wong’s article is great.